The Identity Crisis
When you are 34 and discover after all these years you have been struggling with two severe mental health disorders, it can be an extremely jarring reality check. It’s difficult to struggle with all the times something went wrong and not knowing why it happened. People would call you lazy when there was so much effort. Relationships would fall apart for no reason. It’s a confusing and demoralizing experience. A newly diagnosed person’s whole identity is rocked to its core and you end up going on a long journey of self discovery.
For a lot of people, the year 2020 was a very intense and difficult period. It’s hard to even see positives from such a difficult year, but for me there were a couple. I got diagnosed ADHD a month before my 34th birthday, and I was put on the path towards something I truly love. While having ADHD can be extremely difficult, not knowing you have ADHD is like going through life studying all the wrong material you’re being tested on. Getting that diagnosis was a beacon towards understanding everything.
Up until that point I had been struggling with maintaining a job, a relationship, and my finances. I felt like a failure at life. My mental health was at an all time low. I had no direction on what I wanted to do going forward. I didn’t want to give up on myself. Determined, I started to research the things I was struggling with on a daily basis. After some googling, I discovered many of my symptoms pointed towards ADHD and dug deeper. After realizing this is what it was, I joined a peer support group on Facebook and found my validation. I went to therapy for the first time in 10+ years. When I got my assessment and diagnosis a sense of relief washed over me. I wasn’t broken.
The Choice to Move Forward
It was then that I made the choice that I wanted to help other people struggling with their mental health. To become better, I school to become a Peer Support Specialist to gain more training, and educated myself on everything I could about ADHD. With my knowledge I began helping the people around me as best I could. As my knowledge grew, I decided to expand myself to social media and began educating people on Tiktok, Twitter, and Instagram. As my presence grew and people found my knowledge beneficial, I decided to take my skills to the next level and create a coaching service. Soon, I will be open to providing ADHD coaching to anyone who needs help. I am incredibly grateful how everything has lined up for me. It has been hard, but I stayed strong and overcome. Follow me as I go deeper into my journey of self discovery, and work to change the stigma of mental health.