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The most important aspect of what makes you a good fit for me as a client is your willingness to do the work. Making changes and holding yourself accountable is not easy. It will be uncomfortable and you will resist, because you have been living in the comfort of your current self, and your nervous system isn't used to anything else. It will see your growth as a threat to safety because it is unknown to you. Being able to push yourself into that unknown and work towards taking action regardless of your fear is the most important skill to develop when making changes. I can help you by being your guide in that unknown and alleviating that fear.
Doing tasks that aren't inherently interesting or have some form of pressure to complete can be extremely difficult for the AuDHD mind. We can struggle to start a task or stay focused long enough to complete it once we do start. This is typically caused by our difficulty with executive functions and learning the skills to help ourselves is extremely important to prevent other major issues down the road.
There can be several reasons as to why we may feel this way. We can have too many choices in front of us, and because we struggle with prioritizing, be overwhelmed to the point we are stuck in place. We can be in burnout and not realize it, which affects many aspects of our functioning that need special care. Finally, we could be in stages of unmasking and while that is a good thing, it does come with some difficulties like, skill regression, exhaustion, lack of motivation, etc.
As we become more aware of our needs related to being ADHD or Autistic, you would think that it would lead to being more productive and having more energy. Sometimes, that is the case, but most of the time we go through a process called "skill regression." A lot of us will learn to be successful, productive, and motivated by sacrificing ourselves and going into burnout to achieve our goals. When we start healing, we strip away the unhealthy habits that harm us, and we have to rebuild ourselves from the ground up. So you may not be able to do everything you used to right away, but with time and guidance, you can get back to being you but healthy.
Loneliness is one of the many experiences people don't tend to talk about when it comes to being ADHD or Autistic. The way we communicate, perceive things, and interact with the world, is different than those that are not ADHD or Autistic. This can create barriers between us that we may not be aware of, or understand why they exist. We strive to connect with people but oftentimes find ourselves accepting isolation as being easier than the hurt we experience when trying to connect. You don't have to be alone and you can build connections.
Romantic relationships are hard. When you add disability needs on top of the already challenging experience of romance, it can seem impossible. Whether you struggle with people pleasing, not knowing your own needs, setting and holding boundaries, or just communicating in general, these are all skills you can develop to sustain a healthy relationship.
How our brain works is needing things to be new, interesting, and novel to keep our focus. Often times our responsibilities in life are mundane and boring to the point we just avoid doing them altogether. There is nothing wrong with gaming. In fact, I am a gamer myself, but we do have to learn how to balance our time by learning how to do mundane tasks in a way that doesn't make us want to escape them.
Unsure if you would be a good fit for me? That's ok. Consultations are where we talk and figure out what you need and decide if I will be the best help for you, or if I can point you in the right direction.