A Step Forward

For many ADHD people, life can be very difficult. It’s a mental health disorder that not many people truly understand, and when it’s the people around them that don’t, it can be feel extremely lonely. Even though ADHD is classified as a disability, it is one that can’t be seen, and so many people only think we are making excuses or lazy. They don’t see what is going on inside our heads. They don’t feel the overwhelm of thoughts, emotions, fear, doubt, shame, guilt, constantly buzzing in our minds telling us that we should be better. That other people can do these simple things, why can’t I?

It can be even worse for those of us who went undiagnosed for most of our lives. We struggled against things we didn’t even know we were fighting. We failed over and over again, and the frustration of those failures built up inside, because we tried so hard to succeed. Getting fired from jobs. Losing interest in things we know we love. Failed relationships and friendships without understanding what went wrong. Plus being told things like, “you just need to focus” when we tried to focus but still couldn’t. Instead, we were fighting an invisible enemy. Ourselves.

ADHD is much more than just a “hyperactive” disorder. It affects our emotions, the way we think and process information, our ability to do basic tasks like doing the dishes or taking out the trash, our perception of time, social skills, and much more. Then you have to deal with all the potential comorbid disorders as well like, depression, anxiety, CPTSD, dyslexia, BPD, and more. ADHD is much more than just a disorder to us, it is who we are as a person. It affects every aspect of our lives, and while some of us can function without much help and often excel in life, there are many who are disabled by ADHD. I am one of those people who struggles everyday with it, and if I did not have my medication I would not be functioning at all right now. I still struggle though. Medication is not a fix or cure, but a tool to help us be better.

I hope that through this blog and other social media outlets, I can bring awareness to something that affects an estimated 4.4% of adults in the United States alone. We’re not lazy. We’re not failures. We’re not making excuses. We are ADHD people, and we only want to be understood in this world.

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